Happy Resurrection Day!

Isn't it so good to know that there is salvation in the Kingdom of God? Isn't good to know that there is a way for you and I to have everlasting life?

God's greatest gift to his children....JESUS!


Love you all,
Ebonee

I Cheated!

So tonight I went out and completely cheated on this 1200 calorie per day weight loss plan that I am on. I never allow myself specific "cheat days" but it does get difficult from time to time to always eat healthy and low calorie. So I went to my old favorite, Chili's, and ate whatever it was that I felt like eating. I did not check or care jkb bbhow many calories were in what I consumed.

Like I said in my last weight loss update that I posted on YouTube, it is not about what you do for one day or one weekend. It is what you do the majority of the time over a course of some months that will determine if you will lose weight or not. In other words, I don't feel bad for eating bad for one night. I will pick right back up where I left off tomorrow and I am sure I will still have decent results at my next weight loss update.

Everyone needs a day to just be free, right? LOL

Maintaining My Weight Loss Long Term

As I approach the 40 lbs lost mark, I am giving some heavy thought as to how I am going to maintain this weight loss and keep it off permanently. This is not the first time I have lost a significant amount of weight. This is the third time. The first and second time, once I reached my goal weight, I stopped doing all the things I had been doing to lose weight and went back to my old habits. Of course, the weight gradually came back. This time I know better. I know I have to make some permanent lifestyle changes.

So this is my plan, I will tweak it as needed: 

1. Exercise 6 days a week for a minimum of 30 minutes (goal is 45-60 mins)

2. Keep caloric intake to 2000 calories per day

3. Limit beverages to only water

4. Drink at least 70 ounces of water a day (140 lbs/2 = 70 ounces of water)

5. Weigh myself once a week on the same day to track possible weight gain

6. If weight fluctuates outside of the 135-140 lbs range, make adjustments as necessary

7. If weight increases beyond 140lbs, reduce caloric intake to 1200 calories per day and increase exercise in order to drop back into 135-140 range

8. Stay positive

The Thief of Joy

I read this quote yesterday and it really spoke to me. Have you ever gotten caught up in what someone was doing or what that person has that you overlook all the wonderful things that you have going for yourself? Maybe you are comparing your accomplishments with theirs as far as academics, career, finances, etc. Maybe you are comparing your appearance as far as weight, beauty, shape, size, etc. You may even go so far as to compare your children with someone else’s.

STOP! The quote above is so real. Comparing yourself or your life to someone else’s will steal your joy. It will make you realize all the things you do not have instead of appreciating the many things you do have. It will breed jealously and envy in your heart, both of which are destructive and counterproductive emotions. They are useless emotions. They do nothing to help you to grow into the person you were meant to be.

 

 

We have all been blessed with different gifts. You will never be the smartest, the most beautiful, the best athlete, the best singer, and on and on. There will always be some now or later who comes along that is better. Just because you are not the best, does not mean you are not great in your own right. Just because you may not be the smartest does not mean you are not smart and should not be thankful for your level of intelligence. Do you see my point? Comparison leads one to focus on the negative. In order to live in a state of peace and happiness, you must focus on the positive….even if it’s very small things, they are still blessings. 

Instead of comparing yourself to others, if there is something you do not like, try to change it! If it is something that would be physically impossible to change, for example, if it is something you were born with (the way God created you and there is nothing you can do to change it) pray to God for the ability to accept whatever it may be and the ability to turn what could be a negative into a positive. 

I’ll end it here before this post gets too long. These are my thoughts right now. I remember in my early twenties I always felt the need to be the best. I was always comparing myself to others and the end result was always the same….there would always be a few areas that I did not measure up. I would feel really down thinking about it. Some things were my fault, I could just do better. Other things were just a product of the life I was born into. I stopped that way of thinking because it was mentally toxic. I now focus my attention on being the best Ebonee, and if there is someone out there who is better in certain areas of their life than I am, may God continue to bless them. I won’t let jealousy, envy or comparison keep me from becoming my best self.

What's For Lunch & Snack? | Carribean Fish Soup & Odwalla Bar

For lunch I had another delicious soup that sent my taste buds on a trip. It is called Caribbean Fish soup. It was made of shrimp, clam and whitefish simmered with peppers, tomato, carrots and celery. The soup was seasoned with lime, allspice and cilantro. For a 16oz bowl, only 190 calories!! I really enjoyed it.  

 

 

Below is one of my favorite snacks right now. Made with fruit and whole grain cereals. The package says --- Nourish yourself with the delicious taste of raisins, rolled oats and bananas. It’s a super-concoction with nourishing benefits – from calcium, folic acid, and iron to antioxidant Vitamins C, E and Beta Carotene. One bar is 200 calories. It looks like poop, lol, but tastes really good.

 

 

 

Outfit of the Night | Ghanaian Kaba and Slit

 

 

 

 

Weight Loss Update #5 -- Down 6 lbs!

Beyonce - Bow Down/I Been On

Beyonce has come out with a new song, or a mesh of two new songs. It seems as if with each new album, Beyonce is pushing the envelope more and more. I think with this song she has gone too far. If you have not heard the song, do a search for it on YouTube and listen to it just once so you will have an understanding of what I am talking about. Not that I want to encourage anyone to support this song, but I think people need to be aware of the reality that we are living in today. That is, music is not music anymore. Music used to make you feel good. I would attach a song to a certain memory so that when I heard the song, all the wonderful feelings associated with  that memory would come flooding back. Music no longer has that feel good vibe. You know that feeling that makes you want to love someone hard, makes you want to help someone, makes you want to appreciate the small things about someone. 

So the song is supposed to be addressing Beyonce’s haters, telling them to “bow down” to the Queen Bey, Mrs. Carter.  Bow Down as in worship? Bow Down as in show respect? I am still  trying to understand why someone would make a song asking a person or people to bow down to them. What happened to humility? What happened to being the best at something but never saying it because your work, your art, your earnings, your fan base, your business ventures, etc., all speak for themselves? If you are one of the greatest, please believe people will know without you broadcasting how great you are in a song and reminding people about how when they were young they wanted the life you live now.

Some people really love the song and that is fine. We are all entitled to our own opinion. I just personally believe there are more creative ways to reinvent yourself besides losing your humility and class and replacing it with pride and arrogance. This is the world we live in and my prayer is that things with take a turn for the better for the sake of our children and their children.

"It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels." -Saint Augustine

"Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real." -Thomas Merton

ASP Light-Less Gel Kit

 

 

Now that spring it here, I really want to get back into polishing my nails. I have TONS of beautiful nail polishes that have just been sitting for most of the winter because I have not felt like polishing my nails. The maintenance is what really turns me off because even if I use an awesome topcoat, within about three days my nails start to chip. It doesn't help that I am mother and I braid my three daughters' hair, wash dishes, scrub tubs, etc. All are added stress to my nails destroying any pretty manicure I may have done.

 

 

Anyway, I have found a solution. This Light-Less Gel Kit from ASP. I used it to do my nails above and it was super easy. Put the gel on and smooth it out, spray it with the gel cure spray, buff it out so that it is smooth, apply your polish and top coat. I did not use the tips that came in the kit because I like to keep my nails short. It is just easier for me to braid hair with short nails. So I am going to give this a go and see how long my polish lasts before it needs to be redone. I really think I am going to love this.

Hairstyling | Salvaging Old Bantu Curls

Hair Styling | Bantu Knot Curls